love 2

Love has many different meanings to all different types of people. There are many stages of love at different ages and different types of love. This is all about the real definition of love.

What is the real definition of love? Love has many different meanings to all different types of people. There are many stages of love at different ages and different types of love. My definition of love is caring about someone so deeply that your like would be very different with out them there would always be a little piece of yourself missing if they pass away or leave you. Your life is incomplete when they are away and you would do anything to protect them or to make them happy. When I think of love I think of a couple sitting by the ocean holding hands and kissing. The feeling of love is “that can’t eat cant sleep reach for the stars world series kinda stuff”. But this definition and the way that I portray and believe in love differs from yours, the classrooms, and probably many other people. “Love is an incredibly powerful word. When you’re in love, you always want to be together, and when you’re not, you’re thinking about being together because you need that person and without them your life is incomplete” (Sophocles).


My definition of love is what I personally think of it. The definition that I gave is what I think of when thinking of a couple (being in a relationship with another person.) This is my interpretation of love as an 18-year-old female. But when I was a little kid I thought of love in a completely different way, and when I am older and wiser I will probably think of love differently also. As an a teenager I realize that I have not experienced the real meaning of life yet and that I have not seen all there is to see in the world so how could I understand the “real” definition of love? How can anyone really know the real definition of love? I believe that love is one of the hardest words in the dictionary to actually understand and know the true definition.

There are so many different types of love. There is little kid love, teenage love, friendship love, family love, marriage love and parent to children love. All of these different types of love have similar meanings but have a little something different to be unique. Clearly when you’re a little kid you don’t really know what love is. Yes, you love your parents and your family and your friends but children don’t get the concept of actually loving someone. Teenagers and their concept of being “in love” most people think they are crazy because teenagers have no idea what love is. That is usually what is said when people hear of teenagers being in love. Teenagers believe they are in love after possibly being with someone for just a few weeks or months can you actually be in love with someone after just that short period of time? And if you are in love with that person then why do you not spend forever with them? Another interpretation of love for me is having that person in your life forever, and teenagers fall in and out of love all of the time so is it actually love? Who can really tell?

Friendship love is different for everyone; everyone loves their friends and would probably be lost without them. I believe friends are the purity in life and without them every one would be a little crazy. Friendship love is knowing that you will always have someone to call, cry to or just to be there for you when you need him or her most. I think that friendship love is one of the best kinds of love because you may fight and be mad but true friendship will last even if you argue and don’t talk for a while you can go back like nothing ever happened.


Family love, everyone has family members and everyone loves there family. But this kind of love is very different then a relationship kind of love because your dealing with a different type of feeling, but it is still love. When people are around their families they are there real selves. No questions asked no one is judging them they can be free to be themselves. “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” (Dr.Seuss). Families will always love you for you. No matter what happens, how bad you screw up and the mistakes that you make your family will always be there to have your back. That is true love and an unbreakable bond that no one can really explain or come between.


Marriage love, how do people know that this is where they belong for the rest of their lives, that the love they have for this person will last forever and that they can trust this person to be good to them and make them happy forever, at my age I see it very hard to know this. But that’s where love comes in, when you love someone enough to make them apart of your life forever. “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.”(Nickolas Sparks, The Notebook) That said by Nickolas Sparks is what I believe is a deep everlasting feeling of love.

Love to me is always caring about the person not wanting to be without them and not being mad or staying mad at the person. When does this ever happen though? Hardly ever. When people are in love they argue, they fight, they have disagreements and it is usually never as perfect as most people picture love to be. At first they might have a difficult time trusting the person that they love and through out there loving relationship they may have disagreements but it is worth it. Love is worth the trouble and the baggage that comes along with it because love gives meaning to life and without love life would be so boring.
 

love poeme 2

You're My Life
As the time goes by, killed by hours of waiting,
The hope in last tears is revived.
When I chose to give in, I was so mistaken -
Couldn’t see that one reason to fight.
Then you’ve opened my eyes to the truth.
Please, forgive me for all times I lied
To myself… All I need now is you.

Just the rain reminds me of latter tears.
I close my eyes and dream again.
A breath of wind… I feel you here,
You’re life, still flowing in my veins,
And in each tear - each drop of rain -
I see your face… can’t live without you.

You’re every tear in my eyes,
Leave everything but you behind,
I’m locking all; I’m turning back
For the last time,
For you’re - my life.

Come to my dreams and stop the time,
Let know you’re here, my angel, fallen.
You’ve broken your wings - I’d give you mine,
And give you hope, from you once stolen.
You’re more than precious memories,
You’re my twin soul - your heart I’ll treasure.

And every time I look at the dawn,
Far at the horizon see your eyes.
You’re miles away, you’re there alone -
Your heart’s with me - I’m still alive.
I can’t pretend, I won’t even try
To escape from this love and to lie to both us…

You’re every tear in my eyes,
Leave everything but you behind,
I’m locking all; I’m turning back
For the last time,
For you’re - my life.

You've Changed Me 

I close my eyes and think of you
You used to be a stranger I hardly knew
Ever since I've known you, I've been in a daze
You've got me going crazy, this time I'm not afraid
You wiped away my tears, like no other has done
You touched me the right way, you didn't want to rush
As our lips touched and our bodies came close
I saw us together, never wanting to let go
Who'd ever think I'd fall this hard?
You've opened my eyes, a walking angel you are
I want to be with you because you set me free
You have shown there's alot inside of me
I feel I need you, like you're the one for me
Leaving footprints on my soul, an everlasting peace
 

love poems

Your Love
Your love is what keeps me going.
My heart beating, my blood flowing.
The precious words I yearn to hear.
Losing you is the only thing I fear.
I have faith God will do us right.
We will not give up with out a fight.
Together we can conquer it all.
Just keep your head up and stand tall.
So many others care so deeply for you.
Don't get discouraged, you know what to do.
Pray to God and keep love inside.
You can't lose your almighty pride.
Because I love you with all of me.
With out you I just can't be.
You're in my heart forever, we’re never apart.
Our souls were latched from the start.

So Close Together 

As a bird soaring through
the highest clouds,
Our love has taken us to
the highest skies,
To see a view so beautiful
to the eyes sight,
We will soar so high into
the endless night.

As a romantic moon lite
summer night,
Stars and the moon shall
fall into place,
We’ll end the night with
a tender kiss,
With your tender kiss my
heart will race.

As a red rose nurtured by
natures soft touch,
And caressed gently with
hands so loving,
This red rose blossoms so
beautifully,
As the beauty that I see in
you has to me.

As the orange sunset that
meets the horizon,
Admired from afar by two
passionate lovers,
Although love sometimes
seems so distant,
Love has brought you and
I so close together.

 Walk With Me

Walk with me down winding roads
Tree lined paths and trails unknown
Walk with me and hold my hand
Walk with me in sea soaked sand

Hear my whisper in your ear
A hushed breath, a gentle tear
Hear the song of mourning doves
Hear my cries of whispered love

Tell me of your wildest dreams
All the things you’ve never seen
Tell me of our life to come
Tell me of our unborn son

Name the things you hold most dear
The wants, desires that you hold near
Name a place you want to go
Name to me your deepest woe

Write to me of love so sweet
From your heart – dig down deep
Write to me a song I know
Write to me in sweetest prose

Hold me close and don’t let go
Your love is what I want to know
Hold my heart within yours dear
Hold me now, pull me near

Feel me now our bodies twined
Two become one, a single mind
Feel my body, taste my soul
Feel the love that makes us whole.
 

100 Ways to Love Your Mate

1. Hug them.
2. Write a love note.
3. Call them at work just to say "Hi."
4. Give them a foot massage.
5. Tell them a joke.
6. Caress them with slow gentle strokes.
7. Go for a walk with them.
8. Send them a "happy gram."
9. Admit your mistakes.
10. Say: "I love you."
11. Indulge a whim.
12. Listen to them talk about an interest of theirs.
13. Be trustworthy.
14. Instead of complaining, tell them what you would prefer.
15. Look at them when you're in a discussion.
16. Send flowers.
17. Compliment something they did.
18. Offer to help.
19. Ask them to show you how to do something.
20. Call when you are going to be late.
21. Take them out to dinner.
22. Write them a poem about how special they are.
23. Cut out a cartoon they'll enjoy.
24. Ask them what they'd like sexually.
25. Go shopping together.
26. Take an afternoon drive.
27. Cuddle.
28. Put your arm around them in front of others.
29. Take them out on a surprise date.
30. Do something they want to do.
31. Listen.
32. Plan a candle light dinner.
33. Look at old photos together.
34. Serve them breakfast in bed.
35. Hold hands.
36. Share sexual fantasies.
37. Do a work project together.
38. Rub their back.
39. Take a shower together.
40. Carry their photo in your wallet.
41. Go away together for a weekend holiday.
42. Kiss them.
43. Smile more when you look at them.
44. Go for a bicycle ride together.
45. Surprise them with "special" attire.
46. Plan a picnic lunch.
47. Read something together about how to have a better relationship.
48. Repeat what they say before answering.
49. Say "Good morning" first.
50. Ask if they have a few minutes first before interrupting.
51. Send them a card.
52. Surprise them with a gift when it's a non-holiday.
53. Cook them a favorite meal.
54. Try a new restaurant.
55. Ask them how they feel.
56. Let them know when you are proud of them.
57. Ask for their opinion.
58. Turn on some romantic music.
59. Dedicate a song to them.
60. Send them a balloon bouquet.
61. Watch a sunset together.
62. Play a game together.
63. Have them teach you something they know.
64. Tell them they have the night off.
65. Go to a movie they select.
66. Ask them for a hug.
67. Wear some new cologne.
68. Take them to Bali.
69. Discuss future plans with them.
70. Ask if you can help when they look sad.
71. Ask them about their dreams.
72. Meet them for lunch.
73. Enlarge a scenic photo of a place you've shared.
74. Give them a gift certificate for their favorite store.
75. Tell them what you like about them.
76. Buy them a new perfume.
77. Take them to a scenic spot.
78. Send them a gourmet gift basket.
79. Send them a joke card.
80. Let them know when you've thought of them during the day.
81. Buy them a toy.
82. Compliment them to their friends.
83. Bring them a thirst quenching drink.
84. Tell them when they look attractive.
85. Send them a post card.
86. Invite them to a secret rendezvous.
87. Give them a massage.
88. Take a lesson with them.
89. Look at photos together of when you met.
90. Plan a vacation with them.
91. Listen openly to their opposing opinion.
92. Buy them a new piece of jewelry.
93. Watch a TV show they like with them
94. Write them a letter.
95. Listen to music with them, such as an old favorite.
96. Whisper sweet nothings in their ear.
97. Tell them what you like that they do.
98. Give a head massage.
99. Invite them to a concert.
100. Let them know you care.

5 Ways To Keep Romance Alive

Just about everyone agrees that a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine at a quiet, intimate restaurant will set the mood for romance, but have you seen the price tag? Not everyone can afford to spend big money on romance ever time, but a bit of creativity can get the same results without breaking the bank.

While most people know about ‘his and hers’ items like bathrobes and towels, there are a number of other items that can be enjoyed together as ‘couples’ items. Try getting matching T-shirts with cute sayings on them. Have matching his and hers overnight bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, cars, holiday ornaments, tennis rackets, rocking chairs and even matching carved pumpkins on Halloween.

Surprise your partner by making the ordinary a little more special. If he or she is enjoying a good book, remove the bookmark and replace it with a note that says, “I bet you’ll never guess where I’ve hidden your bookmark.” If they always turn the TV on when they come home from work, tape a note on the television that says, “Wouldn’t you rather turn me on?” instead.

Making important memories is one way to be romantic on a budget. Challenge your partner to remember the most romantic kiss that you’ve seen in a movie. This will lead to some discussion about romantic kisses and should enhance the mood. As a surprise, buy that movie one day and try to recreate that special romantic kiss! Keep it in a special place and re-watch it whenever the mood strikes. If you can’t agree on the single most romantic kiss, go ahead and create a top five list. This tip works for anything. The top five most romantic songs. The top five most romantic movies. The top five most romantic books. You see the pattern. Make sure to go ahead and buy the books, songs, movies or whatever so you can use them in the future.

If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or her!). You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other.

It’s hard to find anyone who doesn’t enjoy an Oreo cookie. Take an Oreo (or generic version of one), scratch the top of the cookie until smooth and then scratch a heart and your initials into the smooth surface. You can also make your own cookies and create personal messages. Another version is to make your own cupcakes and frost them with special messages in red icing. You can also give your spouse a true treat and track down a box of his or her favorite Girl Scout cookie.

These 5 simple ideas are sure to warm up any relationship. Don’t be afraid to try simple tips and changes to “routines” to spice things up without having it cost a fortune!

Love And Romance

Love And Romance - Understanding Emotions
Submitted By: Peter J Granger

In life we are taught a great many things, but for some reason we do not learn much about emotions! For most of us our emotions are something of a mystery. We know that we have them but have little idea where they come from or how we can experience them more positively.

A useful model developed, by psychologist Dr C. Spezzano, allows us to become more self-aware and to better understand our emotions. At any point in life, our emotions will be experienced from any of six different perspectives.

Denial > Resistance > Pain > Guilt > Fear > Love

Denial - Many of our fears and insecurities are hidden beneath the surface of our conscious minds and we can therefore be completely unaware of them and how they affect our lives. We are often in denial of these insecurities - an unconscious strategy designed to avoid us having to face the emotional pain that we believe might overwhelm us if we were to unearth our hidden fears. We hide them away for protection and then try to get on with life. Unfortunately, these insecurities have a nasty habit of reappearing in our lives as emotional trauma, relationship difficulties and even health problems.

Resistance - Life will through all sorts of challenges at us and these will raise the emotional temperature. In a struggle to keep our insecurities at bay and avoid feeling our negative emotions we will tend to resist anybody or anything in life that might trigger these unpleasant sensations. This normally involves some form of compensatory behavior or distraction from anything that could trigger our pain. Trying to be very successful in education or work to gain approval, or trying to be a really 'nice' person would be typical examples of compensations, but there are many, many more.

Pain - Sooner or later, usually due to traumatic events in our life, the resistance is broken and we begin to feel emotional pain. Our reaction is to either bury it again through more resistance and denial or hand the pain to somebody else - we tend to blame other people for our negative emotions. This is what happens in bad behavior, arguments and rows as we judge and project our pain outwards into the world.

Guilt - Under our tendency to blame other people for our problems is a usually unconsciously held belief that, in fact, we are to blame. This guilt is based around our low self esteem and unworthiness that we take on at a very early age and comes out of a belief that we have let people down (often our parents) and hurt people in some way. Self-blame and guilt are always mistakes and much of our work focuses on letting go of these damaging emotions. More information on Guilt & Low Self Esteem

Fear - All these negative emotions are actually hiding our deeply buried fears. There will be many different fears that we are unwilling to deal with, but ultimately these will boil down to our fears about being abandoned, rejected and unloved. As we gain confidence and greater emotional awareness we are able to feel, understand and let go of these fears.

Love - As we face and heal our fears, rather than suppressing or denying them, we discover that they hide our natural state - that of love, spirit and pure positive energy. As we strip away the pain, guilt and fear we are left with the beauty of our essence - full of creativity, abundance and joy.

We usually experience these emotional responses sequentially. They appear as layers in our reaction to people and events in our lives. Our negative emotions can be understood as our defense mechanism to avoid feeling pain, guilt and fear, that usually originates in our childhood. If we want to gain more emotional awareness and maturity we need to work down through our emotional layers and heal or our insecurities and fears. By understanding the layered nature of emotions we begin to understand why we have certain thoughts and feelings and also understand the people around us better. Ultimately we can let go of all the negative emotions and bring more love into our lives and improve our relationships and romantic experiences.

Love Quotes 2

Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed:
our love to others, and others' love to us.
~ by Thomas Trahern 
 
Find the person who will love you because of your differences and not in spite of them and you have found a lover for life.
~ by Leo Buscaglia 
 
Romance has been elegantly defined as the offspring of fiction and love.
~ by Benjamin Disraeli
 
Think about it, there must be higher love Down in the heart or hidden in the stars above Without it, life is a wasted time. Look inside your heart, I'll look inside mine.
~ by Steve Winwood 
 
You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love.
~ by Henry Drummond 
 
To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.
~ by Bertrand Russell 
 
Love means never having to say you're sorry.
~ by Erich Segal 
 
True love never lives happily ever after - true love has no ending.
~ K. Knight . 
Love is a game that two can play and both win.
~ Eva Gabor 
 
The best proof of love is trust.
~ by Joyce Brothers

Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration.
~ by D.H.Lawrence 

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
~ by Mother Theresa 

Life in abundance comes only through great love.
~ by Elbert GreenHubbard 

Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love, because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall.

To love someone is to understand each other, to laugh together, to smile with your heart and to trust one another. One important thing is to let each other go if you can't do this.
Love, an emotion so strong that you would give up everything. To just feel it once, to know that you are part of something special. To know that you can feel what love really is; to know, to feel, to love.
Love is a canvas furnished by Nature and embroidered by imagination.
~ by Voltaire 

Love is a friendship set to music.
~ by E. Joseph Cossman 

If you have it [Love], you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have.
~ by Sir James M. Barrie 

Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another's heart, or its flame burns low.
~ Henry Ward Beecher
 

Love Quotes

You sowed a seed of love in my heart, and for now it sprouted as a plant of happiness.
Pure love and suspicion cannot dwell together: at the door where the latter enters, the former makes its exit.
 
Life is but a brief moment. The years go by quickly and old age arrives suddenly before we have an inkling. People desire so many things and waste their days in vain. Some yearn for gold, others for power, yet others for glory and a higher station. But when death's moment nears and they look back at their lives they've lived, they realise they've been happy only during those moments when they've loved.
 
Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained. 
 
Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish it's source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.
 
I only thought about you once today.. I never stopped.
 
I think I would rather possess eyes that know no sight, ears that know no sound, hands that know no touch than a heart that knows no love. 
 
To handle yourself, use your head, to handle others, use your heart. 
 
Love is like an hourglass
With the heart filling up
As the brain empties
~ by Jules Renard 
 
My heart to you is given:
Oh, do give yours to me;
We'll lock them up together,
And throw away the key.
~ by Frederick Saunders

Love is not a matter of what happens in life. It's a matter of what's happening in your heart.
~ by Ken Keyes 

Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
~ by Erich Fromm 

Life is the flower of which love is the honey.
~ by Jean Baptiste Alphonse Karr 

Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself.
~ by Leo Buscaglia 

Love is much like a wild rose, beautiful and calm, but willing to draw blood in its defense.
~ by Mark A. Overby 

Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within the reach of every hand.
~ by Mother Theresa 

Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.
~ by Oliver Wendell Holmes 

May no gift be too small to give, nor too simple to receive, which is wrapped in thoughtfulness and tied with love.
~ by L.O. Baird

It is best to love wisely, no doubt;
but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.
~ by William Thackeray 

Love is always bestowed as a gift -- freely, willingly, and without expectation..
We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
~ by Leo Buscaglia
 

How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You

Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.

The first step in the heart-winning exercise for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.

Let her fall in love gradually. Romance is an important part of falling in love. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me in the romantic manner.

Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.

A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.

Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.

In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.

Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.

You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?

Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.
No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.

The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.

Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.

The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.

I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!

If Tomorrow Never Comes

 

 "If Tomorrow Never Comes"

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

ways to show you love somebody

Tell the other person that you love them
Give or get a hug
Make sure the other person feels important and respected
Kiss when people are looking
Kiss when people aren't looking
Tell the other person that you care
Hold hands
Go for a long bike ride
Give a special present
Be there when they need a friend
Spend time together
Go to see a film
Walk arm in arm in the woods
Make a special tape of love songs
Talk about your feelings
Share dreams with each other
Snuggle up together
Sit together in the park
Take a walk together
Go out for a meal
Have a picnic
Play a game of frisbee
Give compliments
Relax in a jacuzzi
Go swimming
Just be close
Go shopping for food
Cook a meal together
Touch each other in a loving way
Do homework together
Plan and go on a trip together
Throw a party together
Bake a cake
Go to the library
Browse in a museum
Just be there
Find out what's special for the other person - and do it
Exercise together
Gaze at each other
Wash each other's cars (or bikes !)
Go fishing
Talk to each other
Listen to worries
Cut each other's toenails
Choose a special favourite song
Listen to joys
Hold one another close
Catch their eye
Write one another letters
Talk on the telephone
Trust one another
Give or receive a ring
Meet each other's family
Go hiking together
Make sacrifices for each other
Send chocolates
Respect each other
Go for a moonlight walk
Hide a love note where the other will find it
Give each other sexy looks
Write a poem
Send flowers
Eat dinner by candlelight
Go to a concert
Watch the sunrise together
Remember anniversaries
Give each other pet names
Go sightseeing
Rent a video
Do things for each other without being asked
Propose marriage
Whisper something nice into the other's ear
Be best friends
Have fun together
Go out dancing
Play music together
Flirt with each other
Laugh at something funny together
Be faithful
Impress each other
Make a list of things you like about each other
Read a book and discuss it
Meet each other's friends
Go horse riding
Cook each other's favourite food
Find out what makes each other happy
Make presents for each other
Wash each other's hair
Watch the sunset
Go for a bus trip
Have a request played on the radio
Send a funny card
Share your plans for the future
Play footsie
Share private jokes
Think about each other
Find out what makes the other sad
Go skating
Swap rings
Share an ice-cream
Have your picture taken together

what women want 2

What do women want? 

Really! What DO women want? Isn't this one of the most challenging questions of all time? We thought "what men want" was difficult, but this is even harder.

The epic struggle of mankind to figure out the inner workings of women is ages old. Even Sigmund Freud, the master of modern psychology, died trying to figure out women. It isn't easy.

I had a friend once joke with me that "men mostly want sex, woman want the right to be hypocritical, yet call men on their inconsistencies." Yikes. No wonder men and women have struggles getting along!

One reason why understanding women isn't such an easy thing is because the ways women process thoughts and emotions are drastically different than their male counterparts' ways of processing.

Key difference between men and women: I've reviewed many studies that indicate women use emotion to process thought as their basis for decision making 30% more than men do.* As such, women are also known for being more intuitive than men. This is not exactly true, as men use intuition in different ways, and have different ways of communicating. Nevertheless, men tend to bond through shared activities, whereas women bond through sharing thoughts and feelings.
 Now, men, before you freak out, this article isn't about "what men want women to want" but more rather what women actually want from men. I've noticed that a woman will want to tell every little nuance of a story, where their male counterpart might be feeling like, "ok, what's the point?" A man typically seeks a solution to the problem, as if the story was a problem. Or, he's looking for a way to suggest something to help his woman improve, which is based upon competitive thinking (how men relate in conversation is much more competitive). In fact, a woman often is just relating this story to SHARE with him; there isn't anything competitive about it.

So what do women really want from their man?


However, in interviewing countless women, and receiving numerous pointers from women (after all, I AM a MAN!) I must say that there is an expanded list for us guys to get familiar with, according to women. So, what is the expanded list? Men can get what they want from women much more frequently when they approach women with a few simple - yet effective - guidelines:



1. Women want a man to be confident! Confidence is the number one quality women look for. Don't be wimpy. Don't apologize for everything. Be real. Be you.



2. Women want a man who makes her feel like she's the only one. Women go nuts over a man who will go the extra mile. For example, he opens the door for her, he walks on the right side of the street, he helps her shop. I'm talking about being a GENTLEMAN! If she is cold, offer her your jacket. If she is in trouble, protect her. If there is danger, put your arm around her. Be a real man.



3. Women want a man with a sense of humor. A woman will almost always love a man who can make her laugh. If you are dull, you are boring. If you make a woman laugh, you're halfway home. Take a chance, be real, but be funny. There are several seduction experts who claim that being "cocky" and "funny" are the two most important qualities to attracting a woman. I agree.



4. Women want a man to listen to them (yes, even to the gripes and details of all the craziness) and not necessarily give advice. Many women love to complain about their problems; however, they complain not to receive advice, but merely to sound off. I know it's hard to nod and be supportive, because you want to watch ESPN or do something that to you may seem more exciting, but the fact is, your woman will go to the ends of the earth to love you when you truly listen to them and acknowledge their needs. You need to understand that women need to VENT. Allow her this, and she'll allow you in. Nod. Get involved and provide active listening feedback. Be truly interested in what she is saying without worrying about what you're going to say next. Then, watch what happens as your woman opens up to you more.



Women want men to listen to them, because they have a need to be heard. And, women want their man to express his feelings and trust her with his intimate side. Real listening, with real intimacy, is rare. Real listening is suspending thinking about what to say and being deeply engaged in what she is talking about. Listening requires actively paying attention -- shutting off the chatter mind.



5. Women want men to treat them like they are the sexiest woman on the planet and that no other woman compares. Talking about your ex-girlfriends is not going to score big points with your new woman. Treating her like she's the ONLY one will make her smile for quite a while.



6. Women want loyal men. Women want to know you will be faithful. Don't tell a woman how you cheated on your ex. It won't make her think you are wise, loyal, or trustworthy. I'm not saying to lie to her -- just don't go there. Don't cheat on your woman. She will not think you are a better man for doing this. Just like you want think you are the only man she's ever loved, well, that's the thing she wants, too. The key to faithfulness comes from your own inner character. Be a man of character and you will reap a relationship built upon trust. You gain respect through consistent committed action. Respect backed up by love builds trust, trust builds a strong relationship that can stand the tests of life and time.



7. Women SAY they want a sensitive man. Truth is, if you go around apologizing all the time and crying frequently then a woman will abuse you. Trust me, it is NOT wise to do. This was well exemplified during the beach scene in the movie Bedazzled, where the main character in the film was trying to woo his love interest, his advice had been to "be more sensitive." Well, he went so overboard, was so sensitive, that his love interest ended up walking away with another dude with the assumption that they'd have meaningless conversation and casual sex! Boy was HE surprised! Being overly sensitive is a quick way to get shown the door. It is important to strike a balance. Be strong, be there, yet share your emotions. Speak up and be real. Let them know you care. But don't be a sissy.



Women say they want to be treated like an equal. This is not true. Women want to be treated like a WOMAN. Not like a man. If she wanted to be with a woman, she'd do that. She wants to be with YOU. Therefore, be a MAN. This is not to be confused with being treated like a piece of property, not to be confused with being treated with disrespect. Women want to be respected! A woman wants to be respected for being feminine, being a woman. Women are quite different from men. A man who takes the time to understand the difference is a wise man. Bottom line here: NO MORE Mr. NICE GUY. Be a REAL MAN, not a sensitive NICE GUY. Because the nice guys usually do finish last.



You still don't get it? Ok, then try this: be your own bad self. I will say that some women are attracted to "Bad Boys". I think there is a certain ruggedness to the bad boy - they break rules, they sometimes behave rudely. But the true gentleman always remembers what matters most. Have an air of mystique, but definitely be you. If, on occasion, that means doing what you want, rather than what she wants, then do it. Just don't make a continual habit of it - that's rude.



8. Women LOVE a man with a plan. Women love men with ambition. Men who know who they are, what we're doing tonight, and what we're doing with our life. If you don't have a plan, get one. I have a plan (a) and plan (b) ready at all times, so that no matter what, it will appear I'm fairly spontaneous, but reality is I usually know where, when, and how the evening or date could go. In dating, it is extremely important that you have a plan when you ask a woman out. They will judge your sense of confidence by how well you have thought out where you will take her and what you will do together. So, think ahead, have a plan, then work that plan. While you're at it make sure you have an alternative plan, too, in case she doesn't like the first one!



It is equally important for a man to know when to call a woman's bluff and let her know when she is pushing his limits. A man who just falls over and laps at his woman's feet is a man who is called "whipped" for a reason. An example is as follows: she asks, "what do you want to do tonight," he says, "whatever you want to do." If this is his consistent pattern, he's whipped. She won't respect him in the end.



9. Women want generous men. Don't be a tight-wad. Give the woman in your life gifts. Like the Chairman of the Board, Ol' Blue Eyes, Frank Sinatra, used to say, "you gotta gift 'em." Well, I figure good enough for Frank, good enough for me. After all, Frank was a MASTER SWOONER. Guys, get this: Frank Sinatra went to Hollywood with a plan to take a lengthy list of top actresses in his movie studio to bed at some point during his career. As the story goes, he pretty much succeeded. Some women will frown when they read this - but guys, I know what you're thinking: "who did Frank get together with?" Well, how about Gina Lollobrigida and Ava Gardner, for starters (I believe it was Angie Dickinson who claimed to abstain). That's like saying Jennifer Lopez, Halle Berry, and Charlize Theron to today's younger actor. So, maybe giving a gift once in a while isn't such a bad idea. Just don't go broke trying to impress her! After all, Frank Sinatra also had a stellar voice, plenty of swagger, and loads of star power to go with his ability to buy a gift or two. Nevertheless, small gifts, especially gifts that show you were listening when she mentioned her favorite candy bar, or when she stopped at that jewelry counter to admire those earrings (but put them back without buying them), or how she commented on how she'd just love that dress in the window of that snazzy clothing store. Well, use your own imagination. But if you don't gift the woman in your life you'll probably be referred to by the woman you love as "cheapskate".



Now, "why," you ask, "do women care about gifts?" Good question. The answer is that one way women relate is through giving gifts - especially when you've paid attention to what they want. Women will gift exchange compliments with each other, too. So just trust me and surprise her with a gift every now and then and see if she doesn't respond favorably.



10. Be a true friend. LISTEN TO HER. Let her share her good times and problems with you. Be there, rather than just promising to be there. Consistent committed positive action is a definition of love. How do you show you are a friend? Are you there when it matters most? Are you there for the small stuff, too?



11. Women want to be loved, despite their flaws, and need to be satisfied mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as much as physically. Unconditional love would be ideal love. How can you love a woman without judgment, conditions, or rules? How would you like to be loved?



Sexually speaking, women define great sex differently than men, using words like soft candlelight, light touch, then becoming more aggressive as their mood rises to the occasion. A man, on the other hand, instantly rises to the occasion. Women want men to be their lover instead of obsessing over their body to just get sex. Rather than treat women as sex objects, treat them as someone to relate with; in other words, a real person! That means taking your time, showing extra attention, and being tender in ways with her to let her know she is special.



12. Women appreciate a man who is creative. Roses are nice. But sometimes it is extra special to think of something that most guys wouldn't do for a woman. It could be something frivolous, but if it is something that you think SHE would like, then why not do it? You might have just made her day.



13. Women want men who offer a sense of security, to know that her partner will be there if she becomes sick or when she grows old or flabby. Giving a woman security is being there through emotional and physical support. An example might be if she has to have surgery. Take the day off and be there for her, hold her hand, and give your full support to her. In other words, postpone that "tee time"! Security comes from trust. Again, this is about being able to rely in your strength of character.

What do men want

Women have been trying to answer this question for ages, and shelves of self-help books try to resolve the differences between men and women by considering we're from different planets.

A recent poll said that the average person is willing to spend 6 months' salary to find their true love.

Many women ask the question "What do men want?" to their women friends and sometimes they'll ask their guy friends. If women would approach men with a few simple, effective guidelines, they'll be much more likely to get exactly what they want from men: a fulfilling, healthy, happy relationship.

Women: in case you're not very thrilled with this list, that may be because you were hoping I wrote the guidelines for "What Women Want Men To Want," which, predictably, is a considerably different list. For that, you'd have to see What Women Want (A Guide For Men). But the idea is to understand men so that you might get along better, right? Well, this guide works, trust me - it is proven and tested.

You will note that this list of guidelines is far shorter than my list for What Women Want. Why is this? Because men are more like dogs, women more like cats. However, if you put a weighted scale on it, you'd find more VALUE placed on each guideline than any of the thirteen guidelines for What Women Want (A Guide for Men). So, if you want to improve your relationship with the man you love or want to love, then try these guidelines and see how they work for your relationship improvement results.

1. Men want a fun and exciting companion. There are things that a man will discuss with a woman if the level of communication and trust has been established. Sharing activities can also be a healthy way to build relationships. Exciting to some men may mean going to the library together. So, what I recommend is know what you enjoy and find men who enjoy those activities (or at least, a subset of those activities). If women spend more time with men sharing some activities each week they are likely to get along better with the men in their lives.

2. Men want consistent, frequent, passionate sex (or hot sex). Men get turned on by different things that a woman does. A woman wants to know she's "the only one he loves" and that he digs her. A man wants his partner to be a bit of a lusty animal in bed - thus the high subscription rate among men to magazines that are somewhat exploitive of women. (Note: the top 2 subscriptions among men are Playboy and Penthouse, the top for women is Ladies Home Journal and Better Homes & Garden). A woman that delivers in the bedroom will, more often than not, get what she wants from her man - a dedicated lover. I hate to be crass, but it's reality. Smart women look at this and figure out how to use it to build mutual happiness. A woman who is more vocal in bed, and carries the attitude that goes with it, is likely to get a lot back from her man, as well. On the other hand, a woman who is frigid and uses sex as a manipulation tool is likely to receive games right back. The main thing isn't so much experimentation though - please don't take this the wrong way. It is about creativity, bonding, and emotional intimacy.

Men bond through being physically connected. The act of making love is how a man feels that you love him. Withhold this, and you are withholding your love, to a man. Men want to connect with the physical act, because the act of release during sex is how a man most feels connected to you. It is the "feeling of being connected" he most seeks.

I had a woman write me once who said, "if a man is connected by making love to a woman, then how can he say 'she meant nothing' about an affair?" Good point. It meant something. But perhaps, he was seeking something STRANGE or DIFFERENT. It is good to mix it up once in a while, you know?

By the way, some men living by their animal instinct or Ego's rules enjoy the conquest. We can help curb this tendency by being aware and learning as much as possible about each other prior to becoming physical. Women can help improve their sexual relationships by offering some spice and also helping men understand the importance of romance, ambience, and setting a good mood (thus helping her meet her own need to "heat-up" first).

3. Men want to share meals with you, especially when you prepare the meal. I personally enjoy cooking a meal together and going out and enjoying a nice meal together. Just as much as I do not expect a woman to cook every meal for us, I also appreciate it when she does. It is also nice when a woman appreciates when her man cooks for her. Women who share their meals with their partner are improving the quality time they spend together and building a better bond. A man who expects his woman to cook every meal might improve his relationship by offering to clean-up dishes or surprising his woman with a home-cooked meal of his own. Many men just take their women out to dinner to show their appreciation (thus, the reason Mother's Day brunches are so expensive!). Communication about the importance of cooperation and sharing of all aspects of the meal can help improve problems in this area. So, especially, men appreciate when you FEED THEM. Maybe it sounds old-fashioned, but the old adage, "the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" has some value.

4. Men want you to support them in their work and help boost their confidence. Note: Women who understand men do not put them down. Women who understand this ask men questions about their career and let them know "you can do it, baby!" In return, women will find their man equally supportive because she understands him and does things to let him know she's a believer. Call it a case of mutual admiration.

5. Men want you to look great (your very best). Just go to a sporting event (like a football game or baseball game) and check out the player's wives and girlfriends. They are often quite nice looking with top-shape bodies. Were they chosen for their looks, personality, money, or what? Why are so few of these women physically ugly? Because the sports-stars attract good-looking women due to their POWER status and making high amounts of money (two things women want besides confidence and a sense of humor).

I've had so many women write me about this subject because, well, women have issues with the way they look. Men don't. Men just know what they like. The funny thing is that women with a .7 to 1 waist to hip ratio tend to attract men easier than women without that ratio. So, a woman may be more robust, like Marilyn Monroe was, and still attract men like crazy, compared to the little skinny waifs who are models and movie stars in our present era.

When I write that men want you to look great it means simply this: look the very best you can for your size, type, and build. Then carry it with confidence. Ever wonder why men groan when their woman asks, "honey, does this look my butt look fat?" If she is confident, she already knows and doesn't have to ask.

Looking great does not mean you have to be a trophy doll. But if you think men don't choose their partners largely by the way they look, think again. Men want women to look great! It may even be a double-standard. Looking great does not mean you have to look like superstars. I point them out because of society's general status symbols, but please consider our perspective of "how we look" isn't really more important than a societal viewpoint of what looks best. Certainly, watching weight, eating and drinking healthy food and water, and working out a few times a week also has benefits to our own emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health. It is important to love our body. When we love our body, why shouldn't our partner love it, too? Even if you are "working on it," sending loving thoughts to your body will help you achieve physical goals and happiness more than sending out negative thoughts. Our confidence is attractive to most people, and it counts in looks, too. Confidence is sexy. And men love sexy women. Why did Marilyn Monroe have such popularity? Because she was sexy. So, do your best to look great, stay in shape, dress attractively, and display a confident and sexy attitude. Watch how much more attention you'll receive from the man in your life.

For women who don't have perfect model bodies, I had a woman ask me this recently and all I can say is what Duke Ellington said re: life: "Do the very best you can with what you've got." I think you'll find a man who will appreciate that effort you put out.

6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect. I've recently heard a woman say that she felt men were not respecting her, but then a few moments later used the phrase "well you men ..." in her speech. This indicates a tendency towards negatively judging men. Sometimes, we get back what we give out, and what we say to each other DOES matter.

Instead, when we give love, kindness, and respect, we will experience the law of abundance in action. Men listen differently than women do. Women tend to nod their head and make comments, such as "ah, uh-huh, wow, yes, right" during conversation to indicate they are listening and involved. Men tend to listen like a wall, quietly observing until the other person finishes their statement. Being sensitive to this difference in how men and women communicate (and adapting, as appropriate) will improve communication between partners.

7. Men need you to give them private time to be left alone, to spend on hobbies and sports, and to spend time with other men. Some men need a few minutes to unwind when they walk in the door before sharing the day's challenges. Some women need this space, too, but I've noticed that most women I've dated prefer to launch into the daily review, while I'd really just like a hug, a kiss, and then some quiet space for a few minutes to unwind prior to reviewing the day together. Do what works best for your relationship. I find that a sincere and compassionately deep hug upon greeting is nice, followed by a thirty-second kiss sometime in the next few minutes, helps re-establish that "connected" feeling.

Did I just say 30 second kiss? Yes, I did. Why? Because a peck kiss does nothing to establish nor maintain romance. It requires a longer kiss to do that. So, use your kissing to your advantage and keep the passion alive between you!

I remember a friend telling me about his girlfriend, how she tried to be his "Ms. Right" by becoming the woman he wanted, rather than developing some interests of her own. Perhaps, she'd be married to this man, today, had she simply had some of her own interests and creating abundant living in her own life. It can also be valuable to take time apart, once in a while, to reinforce and remind each other of your bond that hold you together.

Perhaps, by not spending too much time together, we may realize why someone coined the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

By following this guidance, and other tips in Smooth Sailing, we hope you are able to build the relationship of your dreams.